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How to deal with Nigerian Parents

Nigerian parents are just awesome; they’re the best parents in the world(I’m serious o?). We wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world. Nigerian mothers love selflessly but they won’t express it in full.

Growing up in a Nigerian home was mega interesting, reflecting on the things our parents often forced us to do would leave many laughing hysterically.

There are certain culture and habits that are exclusive to Nigerians, trust me. So here are some proven ways of dealing with your Nigerian parents; 

Try to make them understand you

Nigerian parents are most of the times authoritative. They believe since they brought you to this world you must obey and listen to them always. Once you have something or an opinion contradicting to your parents’, try as much as possible to make them see things from your own point of view. You could involve an aunt or uncle. Goodluck with that.

 

Don’t squeeze your face when sent on errands

Your role as a child is to run errands so trust me you don’t want to be frowning or squeezing your face when sent on errands. I know these errands could sometimes be irrelevant like being called from upstairs to come downstairs to help with something that’s close to them already. There are so many cases of remotes, glasses, keys, you name it but just to make peace reign and not get unnecessarily insulted just do it. In fact sometimes, volunteer to go before they even ask you to. You’d here stuffs like “Omodaada” and your parents would just be proud of you. I had this friend in secondary school who literally named all her mum’s handbags, so each time her mum calls her to bring one of her handbags, she’d ask is it Cindy bag? So she won’t have to take the stairs more than once.

Understand their proverbs and metaphors or at least pretend to understand 

 

For instance, when I was 12, I spent half a day trying to figure out what my dad meant when he said, “a child that has equal clothes with an adult cannot have equal rags with an adult”

Don’t call anyone older by name

 

Everyone who is older than you are is your “auntie” or “uncle.” Calling them by their first name is basically a crime against humanity so please don’t. And those as old as your parents should also be referred to as “mummy” or “daddy”. I even call the elderly ones “grandma” or “grandpa”.

Learn to read your parent’s facial expressions always, especially your mother

 

Whenever you’re out with your parent or a visitor comes over and they’re offering you gift, money or soft drink and your mother gives you the “don’t take it” look and the visitor insists and you take it, just know you’re in trouble. So what you do is to refuse the gift no matter the visitor’s persistence. Always observe your mother’s facial expressions when you’re out. All over that face is your dos and don’ts.

You’re never alone

 

Neighbors, uncles and aunts help to keep an eye on you for your parents so you don’t go astray. So try to be careful always because someone is always watching you, even where you think your parents can’t see, there are people watching whatever you engage in. They’ve got Big Brother’s eyes ?

You must kneel or prostrate when greeting adults 

 

This is mandatory especially in Yoruba homes. If you don’t go down low while greeting your elderly ones, you’re perceived as being rude and your parents didn’t bring you up in the right way. So please save your parents and yourself the embarrassment of one aunty or uncle or even neighbors reporting you to your family that you didn’t greet them properly or that you don’t know how to greet.

You are to read your books everyday

 

I can remember my dad always asking me to read my book always whether it was entering or not. He’d ask me to just put the books in me to front me and just by stirring at the books and that with time I’ll assimilate.

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